Imagine knowing your car is in tip-top shape and then having a loved one tell you that, just because you’re a girl, you should probably have your work checked anyway.
An interesting Reddit thread asked Redditors how the experience sexism in everyday life and one Redditor’s interaction with her Dad caught my eye. According to Redditor Michonne_Impossible, her Dad often suggested that her boyfriend double-check all her car preventative maintenance despite Michonne educating her Dad that all her work was on point.Embed from Getty Images
And it gets worse, not only did her Dad insist she couldn’t do car maintenance because she was a woman, her boyfriend knew absolutely nothing about cars, too. The boyfriend didn’t even know how to drive.
But wait, there’s more, the Dad knew her boyfriend was bad at cars but, since he was categorically a guy, he believed he automatically knew more than her own daughter.
Here’s Michoone’s story posted verbatim below. It’s hard to believe but also, not hard to believe.
When I first met my dad in my early 20s, he frustrated me so much. I had a bf at the time who didn’t drive. Never had driven a car and didn’t know a damn thing about them. My father knew this. He would still say things like, “oh, have you checked your oil lately?”
“Yeah. I checked it. It’s fine.”
“Yeah… ok. Well, maybe have your bf look at it too”
“Why? I know how to check my oil. I checked it a few days ago and it was fine.”
“Yeah. I know. But, have him check it anyway.”
The guy never drove! I ended up teaching him how to drive toward the end of our relationship, but at the time he had never been behind a wheel, checked oil or tire pressure or even pumped gas.
He’d also tell me about certain roads which were bad for cops giving tickets and he’d make offhand comments like, “_____ road over there is just awful for tickets. Awful. You can be doing only 3 over the speed limit and they’ll pull you over! It’s ridiculous. Of course, I’m sure your bf knows all about that area.”
No. Because he doesn’t drive. He always automatically assumed whatever guy I was with knows everything about cars and driving and what not and that I was completely clueless. He still does stuff like that all the time with my husband. My husband can drive at least, but he still assumes my husband knows more than I do on any given subject.
One redditor asked Michoone to expound on the “When I first met my Dad in my early 20s…” bit and according to Michoone, “He left my Mom when I was born and didn’t contact me until I was 21-22 years old.”
So, if you felt any pity on the Dad for being a bonehead, know that he’s truly a deadbeat, too.
Major props goes to Michonne’s way, perhaps a bit to her Mom too since, despite having no father in her formative years, she’s presumably learned the basics of car maintenance, including checking her own oil, on her own.
Sexism exists in all areas of society and moreso around cars since, for the longest time, the car and garage was strictly a man’s domain. That deadbeat Dad surely grew up in that automotive culture, his car experience steeped being a male-dominated arena.
Today, women are involved in cars just as much as men, and, in several cases like this one, a lot better then men.
Cars do not discriminate between genders, we do.